why are there issues in we ourselves accepting what we are?…..
…. why don’t we ever take into account the effects our actions have on the lives of people surrounding us? …. because of what we are …
other than feeling sorry for what had happen we never feel the guilt or own up to our actions indirectly/directly effecting people around us. all these effects, that i am talking about are invariably the negative ones.
happiness is only real, when shared. - Christopher McCandless
i think, ….. share joy with all, share sorrow with only those who really will take the burden off our shoulders
….. be willing to listen and take the burden that people think should be known to us …… making sure its not used as an advantage or disadvantage.
For the last part i am ok.. but then the starting para… i have to think… it is not that always we find it difficult to accept what we are… most of the problem start as i said “I am ready to speak the truth but the problem is others are not even ready to accept my truths”.. its similar way… “why don’t we ever take into account the effects our actions have on the lives of people surrounding us?”.. the question is how long and how far???… how long will u hurt urself for someone else not to get hurt?… one man’s food is another man’s poison… some say it as grt sacrifice or joy… ya i agree “happiness is real only when shared” but ur happiness is not always someone else happiness… at least for me i have the threshold value for every relation beyond which i wont take it up anymore… i feel about those people who say “i will make other’s happy though i am not happy” are very much sentimentally idiotic… jus bits and pieces of my thought
Comment by dolby — February 29, 2008 @ 9:12 am
to explain, the ordering in which i have put it is important, first is accept what one is.
- so its not what effects of you being true has on others that gets first precedence. its taking the right path and being true. i am sure by being true, if someone has a effect not favorable to them, its because there is some more elements of right and wrong involved.
e.g. being a honest cop and not taking any favors, means the cop has a clean mind, but his family might not live a comfortable life. is that comfortable life they would be living if he had made use of the favors, right ? - right or wrong - the cop is not accepting what he is, and acts against, and lets it grow into him.
as per my ordering, ‘effects our actions have on others” comes after accepting what one is. if there is not a complete truth or right of way in your side of how things are going, then hurting oneself is a way of realizing how wrong we can go, and a penalty we need to pay ourself its more just. (a shopkeeper having a bad day cannot hold his workers or family responsible for having a bad day - or like parents have a fight and children get a raw deal because of that ). So don’t hurt yourself if you are not at fault, because its someone else turn to take pain for what their actions resulted in, all you are doing in the intermediate time is just shielding them from their own actions from effecting them.
You can always move away and not be part of the happiness that is being shared.
e.g. a politician wins the elections and celebrates it, the opposition or people supporting the other cause do not need to be involved in this if they are not interested. if their celebrations are forced on you, then its more of a question that are they doing things in the right way and how you would want to deal with it, is let completely upto you.
My point is, if “i” have a happiness to share, then “i” share it. “i” cannot force or suffocate you with it, because its “you” who can avoid it completely and move away. So its more of, if there is a happiness “i” have, its best shared, cos you never know how positive it can be for the others.
e.g. you have a good day at office/ your long pending work is complete/ and similar cases, we end up giving treats. on the day when any of the above mentioned things happen, and by chance we cross a beggar, we might unconsciously give some alms to them.
Comment by admin — February 29, 2008 @ 9:44 am